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Topic: Re: I feel like taking my own life now
Written By: millwall - 22 days ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Thanks. But the issue is not the child maintenance. The issue is she has no factual evidence of me working but because I put on linkedin I was starting a consultancy and I went to Kazakhstan in December she assumes I was working where in fact I was visiting my familiy. She is using this as an excuse to threaten me by taking it back to,court unless I agree to pay 40000. As far as I am aware thi
Topic: Re: I feel like taking my own life now
Written By: millwall - 23 days ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Please remember I have a wife and 13 year old adopted daughter also but I have not informed anyone about this and why should I, as she refused to tell me when she moved House to a larger one in 2013 as I am classed as a stranger.
Topic: Re: I feel like taking my own life now
Written By: millwall - 23 days ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
All I get is a military pension which she has 50% and my state pension. Since 2009 I have paid her 500,000 pounds plus she was getting tax credits. We both agreed on the 20 pound and signed the variation order. I have done nothing wrong and should not be questioned which country I visit. The fact is she is blackmailing me for a lump sum to keep it out of court. Surely a variation order is sim
Topic: Re: I feel like taking my own life now
Written By: millwall - 23 days ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
The child maintenance is via a variation order which we signed and agreed 8 months ago. It's because she thought I was working she wants to take it back to court but I can prove I was not working. I have blocked her email on the laptop but it does not work on iPad/ iPhone as I am in Kazakhstan with my family and causing great distress. Her solicitor contacted me saying my ex says I am working
Topic: Re: I feel like taking my own life now
Written By: millwall - 23 days ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Hi, Today was another barrage of emails and she is demanded 40,000 pound or it goes to court. I have replied to her emails putting questions in such a way as to confirm it is a form of blackmail. She all ready has pension share and the 20 is for children. Obviously I am ok with that it is just the fact she is saying I have worked when I know for a fact I have not and now blackmailing me to k
Topic: I feel like taking my own life now
Written By: millwall - 23 days ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
I was divorced in 2009 and paid all monies to my family as per the court orders. I retired in June and a new variation order was agreed by my ex and myself for a miminal sum of 20 pound per month. On LinkedIn and Facebook which she is blocked but still manages to access she saw I was advertising for consultancy work and because I went to Kazakhstan for xmas she assumed I was working. She is no
Topic: Re: Military pension share please don't pinch my post
Written By: millwall - 1 year ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Hi David, Can you explain why my topics recently are never answered? I try and keep them as short as possible but if you have no intention to even reply to them then maybe your be kind enough to let me know so we can both stop wasting each others time. I know your time is limited and I appreciate all the past advice but I am coming to the end now and I don't have a solictor anymore due to over
Topic: Re: Military pension share please don't pinch my post
Written By: millwall - 1 year ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Hi David, At last I see light at the end of the tunnel and at the end of this year all will be settled and behind me. I have agreed to a 50/50 split of my army pension and in the draft order it states.......Pursuant to the Matrimonial Causes Act 1973, section 31, and there be provision by way of a pension sharing order in favour of the respondent in respect of the applicant’s rights in the Ar
Topic: Re: Military pension share
Written By: millwall - 1 year ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Thanks for hijacking my post and hiding my two questions.
Topic: Military pension share
Written By: millwall - 1 year ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Hi David, At last I see light at the end of the tunnel and at the end of this year all will be settled and behind me. I have agreed to a 50/50 split of my army pension and in the draft order it states.......Pursuant to the Matrimonial Causes Act 1973, section 31, and there be provision by way of a pension sharing order in favour of the respondent in respect of the applicant’s rights in the Ar
Topic: I need a quick answer from anyone regarding pension share
Written By: millwall - 1 year ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
If the court orders a pension share of my military pension (which I am fine with). If my ex-wife dies before me will her share come back to me? or does it go with her. If the answer is Yes would it not be better to set up a DD with the bank because I earned that pension.
Topic: Re: Verbal agreement
Written By: millwall - 1 year ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Thank you. I know you have mentioned this in previous posts and I am prepared to give her 24000 for the first 12 months. But her solicitor is saying quote: We understand from our client that you have advised her that arrears over 12 months will not be enforceable. This is not the fact correct in that arrears over 12 months’ old can be enforced but simply with leave of the Court and is drive
Topic: Verbal agreement
Written By: millwall - 1 year ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Hi, My ex wife and I had an agreement by email (although no email can be produced by either party) to reduce her monthly maintenance from 5750 down to 4000. This reduction started in Jan 2014 when I changed jobs. I intend to retire in March 2017 when I am 65 and now she has contacted a solicitor threatening to take me to court for all the back money. I don't want to go to court but her solici
Topic: What can happen now?
Written By: millwall - 1 year ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Hi All, I was divorced in Sept 2009. In July 2012 I approached the court and got my maintenance payments reduced from 8000 pm to 5750 pm. In January 2014 I changed jobs to a lower day rate and we verbally agreed to reduce it from 5750 pm to 4000 pm. There was no written agreement or email to confirm this. We did not want to go to court again due to costs. In March 2014 she bought a larg
Topic: Searching Bank accounts in a Will
Written By: millwall - 2 years ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Hello All, Not been on the site for a while as I have been weaving and diving to avoid my ex since 2009. My Question is: I live in Cyprus and In the process of making a Will. Currently I am using the same bank account as used during my divorce. As I do not want all my assets taken into account so my ex can contest the will and claim for maintenance I am thinking of transferring the bulk
Topic: Re: Millwall is back
Written By: millwall - 2 years ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
That is very true and that may be the problem that she has become accustomed to good money. Maybe I should spend the money on buying a condo in Thailand and staying 6 months of the year. But I don't think she will ever give me peace. Most people think divorce is the end all situation but believe me it's only the beginning. If I can pay her mortgage I will but I will have to assess the situati
Topic: Re: Millwall is back
Written By: millwall - 2 years ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
What other choice do I have? If she loses the home then I will be blamed by my older children for making them homeless and I get nothing but grief. If I pay it off at least I can retire without a headache...although I think that will never happen. What advice do you think I should take. In reality I could do with the money for my retirement savings.
Topic: Re: Millwall is back
Written By: millwall - 2 years ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Thanks David, I have agreed with her that I will pay her mortgage off before I retire. By doing this I hope to retire in peace!! and she has a home.
Topic: Re: Millwall is back
Written By: millwall - 2 years ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Sorry that's 22 months after I retire.
Topic: Millwall is back
Written By: millwall - 2 years ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Hi All, Well Ex Millwall as been at it again. In Sept 2009 I was divorced paying 8000 per month maintenance. Part of the letter was that my ex will try and reduce the mortgage to 7 years if possible and release me from any liability for the mortgage. In july 2012 I got a new court order reducing the monthly payments down to 5750 GBP. On the 1st March 2013 she sells the house and buys a
Topic: Re: A real problem here
Written By: millwall - 4 years ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
There are many on this site that have and still are "locked in a loveless marriage" and some are still suffering even after divorce AND dont have the help to get out of it. I was disapointed in your reply as I was expecting something much stronger and I get the impression that you "play on your disability" as you dont stop mentioning it. I served 21 years in the Army and
Topic: Re: A real problem here
Written By: millwall - 4 years ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Andy53 I must congratulate you for being the first dickhead I have come across on this site. The world owes you nothing my friend and to be abusive on this site when someone is only trying to advise is not good. If you know all the answers then why waste peoples time. To be honest I resent all the benefits that maybe you get because I am still working and paying tax at 62 and my ex was hoping I
Topic: Re: Property Q, anyone able to advise?
Written By: millwall - 4 years ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
""I would still not make a claim for spousal or child maintainenec or on his pension if he would agree to that"""" what a load of Shite....once your solicitor puts things into your head your change your mind and your go in with the knife. """Contemplating divorce and got a complicated property situation"""""""
Topic: Re: What's the worst part of a divorce?
Written By: millwall - 4 years ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
1) Getting married in the first place 2) Having an ex who is still breathing 3) not realising at the time that a "dog " IS a mans best friend. In answer to the question........if your paying spousal maintenance until she re-marries or dies means you are never "divorced" only on paper. Role on number 2. Me bitter.....No!!!
Topic: Who can look into your bank account?
Written By: millwall - 4 years ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Hi all, 1). Who can legally look into your bank accounts? 2). Do they contact all banks globally or just the ones identified in the Form E? Or within your country of residence? I don't want my ex complaining I never spent enough on her Xmas present
Topic: Re: Taking all my pensione
Written By: millwall - 4 years ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
I work overseas and discuss divorce with different nationalities at work and they can't believe what I have to pay out. In the USA apparently if you get married for the second time all payments to the first stops. If that is true it's a good idea. However, the best thing is not too get married a second time!! Thanks for your help I may have to move across the border to Northern Cyprus
Topic: Re: Taking all my pension
Written By: millwall - 4 years ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Hi, I understand what your saying but basically if I wanted to retire simply because I have had enough of working or both physically and mentally tired I could face losing my military pension because I have 3 years of earning potential left regardless if I die doing it. The system is a farce and I have said it before whilst she sits on her arse claiming tax credits and I have to work until I am
Topic: Re: Taking all my pension
Written By: millwall - 4 years ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Thanks, I can understand that . But if I am 62 and can't claim benefits because I live in Cyprus would they still take it all.
Topic: Taking all my pension
Written By: millwall - 4 years ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Hi, just a quick question hopefully to shut my ex up. If I retire and my only income is my army pension my ex says she as been told that she can have all of it. By retiring I will not be able to pay her maintenance even though she gets tax credits also. I know she can have a percentage but not all of it. And she will have to take it to court not me as I will not have the money so it would be
Topic: Children's whereabouts
Written By: millwall - 4 years ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
My ex moved to another house and refuses to tell me where. Whether you have contact with the children or not can she withhold this information by law. I pay the spousal maintenance which covers her mortgage and addional for the children. No history of abuse or violence, she feels I don't need to know and to stay out of her life.....but she does not mind taking the money. Do I have any right
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