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Topic: Re: Calculating child maintenance when moving abroad
Written By: puma931 - 21 days ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Agree it privately, as CMA won't get any future P60s etc. Discuss with your ex and agree a base figure and a way forward with index increases each year. I've read that some use moving abroad as an opportunity to stop paying all together.....
Topic: Re: Marital home
Written By: puma931 - 28 days ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Your partner and his ex should attend mediation to try and resolve their finances. They will both need to complete a 'Form E', which sets out income, savings, value of house and other assets (cars etc), value of pensions, mortgage and loans. From this full account they will need to agree on the best way forward i.e. who gets what, what happens to the house, what the ex-wife and child(ren) can aff
Topic: Re: Court order to sell house but Ex is delaying things
Written By: puma931 - 28 days ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Not sure what the process is but today I emailed Family Enquiries at the Family Court requesting a referral to the District Judge that made the order and stressed its urgent as we may lose the house sale.... Has anyone experienced this? What did they do to make the house was sold??
Topic: Re: House transfer
Written By: puma931 - 4 weeks ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
IMO pay £3,000 and get it finished.
Topic: Re: Court order to sell house but Ex is delaying things
Written By: puma931 - 4 weeks ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
The court order state, "the parties should agree to the identity of the solicitor to undertake the conveyancing work in connect with the sale of the property.... What is the process / form to refer this back to court??
Topic: Court order to sell house but Ex is delaying things
Written By: puma931 - 4 weeks ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Hi, Can anyone confirm what the process is for going back to court to get a house sold i.e. get the Judge to take control and force the sale through. I have a court order which includes a section that says the house should be sold forthwith. My Ex has agreed to an offer, but for four weeks now she won't confirm which solicitor she will use to deal with the sale. She claims she will only do t
Topic: Re: Rough idea of how this will end?
Written By: puma931 - 5 months ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
There are so many variables in all this, and assuming the children will live with the mother may not be correct. The starting point is to get everything valued including pensions (obtain cash equivalent transfer values - you will be surprised how much they are worth!!). The split of the pot should be around 50/50, but you might opt for the equity in exchange for giving up some/most/all of your
Topic: Re: Rough idea of how this will end?
Written By: puma931 - 5 months ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
The key thing is what will happen to the children. They may say they want to live with you, but what does your partner want? He might ask for shared 50/50 care of the children, so he too will need a house for himself and the children.... If it is agreed you are the main carer and have the children for say 10/11/12 nights out of 14 then I can understand why you should get most of the equity, b
Topic: Re: Finances - Final Hearing
Written By: puma931 - 6 months ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Thanks David. I spoke with the Barrister and he is not confident that we would be successful, so its not worth challenging it, as I could potentially be landed with paying costs for my Ex with no change to the order. Lesson learn is I should have challenged the judge on the day regarding the level of maintenance, and asked him to demonstrate how he arrived at the £750 pcm (balance sheet of incom
Topic: Re: Finances - Final Hearing
Written By: puma931 - 6 months ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
I haven't received it yet, so if there is a time window, I should be okay? David Terry - can you advise??
Topic: Re: Finances - Final Hearing
Written By: puma931 - 6 months ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
After a lot of thought I'm going to have a go at appealing the decision, as I am really struggling to free-up £750 pcm and I don't see why I should pay this high level of maintenance for 9 years. Can someone explain the process, forms and costs (self representing). Thanks
Topic: Re: Finances - Final Hearing
Written By: puma931 - 7 months ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
I had the final hearing yesterday and below is a summary of what was in the pot and how it got divided. It may help others who are in well paid jobs compared to their Ex. Pot: Equity £150k Pension Ex £4k and mine £290k Incomes: Ex £21k (temporary role) and mine £80k plus bonus and car allowance. Family 1 child aged 9 in private school Order: Equity - Ex gets 100% of the equity
Topic: Re: FDA Hearing in 1 month
Written By: puma931 - 7 months ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
In my experience with Barclays a joint account can be closed by one party and funds transferred into another account. They did not require permission or signature from the other person.
Topic: Re: Property adjustment order
Written By: puma931 - 7 months ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Do you already have a court order on finances? "My question is, is there a time limit on him getting an adjustment order?" If you don't then: My understanding is that you both need to disclose current earnings, savings, debts, pension transfer values, and agree on the equity value in the property. Based on complete information you can then look at what you both have and then negotiat
Topic: Re: New partners finances
Written By: puma931 - 8 months ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Try and sort the mortgage out now. If the house needs to be sold (and your ex agrees to this) then get it on the market now. If she doesn't want to sell then you need to get a resolution to finances asap. I paid the mortgage (100%) for almost 3 years and last October I stopped, as I could no longer afford it, and now the bank are awaiting for the final hearing in April, but there are arrears now
Topic: Re: Costs of going to court
Written By: puma931 - 8 months ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
In my experience it has cost a fortune! It takes time for the solicitor to prepare the court paperwork/bundle and then a barrister can costs c£2k for the day in court. You also need to factor in that there are three court appearances over a period of 6 months, so the costs do mount up if you need to use a solicitor (they usually cover the first two) and a barrister for the final hearing. I w
Topic: Re: Final hearing this is it..
Written By: puma931 - 8 months ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
I hope it goes well for you. I have mine the second week of April after is was postponed in December due to lack of judicial resource!
Topic: Re: Finances
Written By: puma931 - 9 months ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Regarding Child Maintenance, have you contacted the CMS and have they set the rate at £45 per week? The CMS set rates based on P60 information obtained from the Inland Revenue, so I would get them to set the rate if you haven't already done so. Regarding the house, I know some couples that have agreed a percentage splits based on: 1) both staying on mortgage 2) House to be sold when younges
Topic: Re: advice on moving back
Written By: puma931 - 9 months ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
You should be able to get a divorce regardless of whether you try to reconcile, on the grounds of unreasonable behaviour. A solicitor would be able to assist with filing on these grounds. The reason for the divorce has no impact on the split of finances (there is no blame for who left who, or who had an affair etc). My advice is see a counsellor on your own initially and then as a couple. Try
Topic: Re: husband wont provide CETV
Written By: puma931 - 9 months ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Do you have a barrister for the final hearing? If yes, what have they said? IMO I would get a Barrister for the final hearing (your solicitor does not need to attend) so it is just one bill for the day c£2,000 plus vat. A good Barrister should be able to deal with all the issues and advise about postponing/going ahead.
Topic: Re: online divorce or face to face solicitors?
Written By: puma931 - 9 months ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
In my experience the divorce is relatively quick and inexpensive to process and finalise. The costly part is if you cant agree on the split of finances and access to children, and these two are separate to getting the decree absolute.
Topic: Re: husband wont provide CETV
Written By: puma931 - 9 months ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Your solicitor can file with the court a schedule of deficiencies, so it is clear to the court what information has been requested but not provided. If your ex was in a final salary pension scheme then they are worth a fortune especially if they have long service and a good salary level. What happened at the FDR? Was the missing CETVs raised and the missing £30k for gambling?
Topic: Re: Finances - Final Hearing
Written By: puma931 - 10 months ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Quick update on Final Hearing - it was postponed in December due to lack of judicial resource and the new date is now April! Barrister is recommending my ex gets 100% of the equity and we go for a clean break and his job is to try and limit pension sharing (pensions transfer value is 2 x equity in house). The reason for 100% of equity is my Ex will need to buy a house free of mortgage for hersel
Topic: Re: Selling car before divorce
Written By: puma931 - 10 months ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Yes you can sell the car, but put the proceeds into your current account (don't hide the cash).
Topic: Re: Equity and cash payment
Written By: puma931 - 10 months ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
If the marriage is over then don't bother fighting the divorce. However, if you are the main carer of your children then do not move out the house, and continue with this role. In my opinion - I would talk to your partner about options: 1) selling the property and dividing the equity, more on an equal share basis as this will then allow you both to purchase modest but suitable properties es
Topic: Re: A major mess
Written By: puma931 - 10 months ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Hi, I am in a similar mess to you (less equity though), and will shortly have the final court hearing on finances. My ex lives in the FMH with our child (8yrs) and I moved out a couple of years ago. She wants to stay in the house for another 2 years (me paying the mortgage) then sell the house and receive 100% of the equity, plus a substantial spousal allowance and half of my pensions! My
Topic: Re: Moving money
Written By: puma931 - 10 months ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Are you both married? All assets and liabilities up to now should be disclosed, and money should not be moved into other accounts. My ex did this and then started using my sons savings account to top-up her current account. You need to find out who can access these accounts! You should both attend mediation and during this you should both disclose all of your assets and liabilities (copies
Topic: Re: Final hearing and FHM
Written By: puma931 - 11 months ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
Final hearing was postponed due to lack of judicial resource, so it will be relisted in Feb/March!!!
Topic: Re: Divorce disagreement on financials
Written By: puma931 - 11 months ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
BTW - don't confuse mediation with marriage counselling. The mediator is there to help you both come to a decision on access and finances, and not to discuss who had the affair etc.
Topic: Re: Divorce disagreement on financials
Written By: puma931 - 11 months ago
Forum: UK Divorce Forum
In a long marriage the starting point is 50/50 of all assets (houses, pensions, cars, savings etc) and then there is some give and take to come to a fair overall settlement. If you are the main carer then a court would likely decide that you should get enough equity to purchase a suitable property (have a look on a property search web site for what you think you need for you and the kids). Yo
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