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Why You Shouldn’t Be Ashamed of Your Divorce (5 Posts)
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28 September, 2017 01:44AM
Why You Shouldn’t Be Ashamed of Your Divorce
atrueloveme - 28 September, 2017 01:44AM
Divorce is quite common nowadays, and while it can be difficult to parties going through it, there is a social stigma surrounding it. When that happens, divorced couples have been reported to feel shame, isolated and even depressed. There's nothing wrong with divorce - if two people can't make their marriage work and it is no longer worth it, then it's better to let go.

No matter whose fault it was or what circumstance brought the marriage to an end, there are many reasons why you should not be ashamed about your divorce:

1. Remember Why You Divorced in the First Place

Outsiders not involved in the marriage should remain where they are: outside. Regardless of what people will inevitably say of your failed marriage, the crucial thing to remember is the reasons why the union resulted in divorce. No matter what the reasons are: abusive partner, infidelity, money, unrealistic expectations, etc., you are in the right for separating with them.

2. Divorce is Not a Failure; Marriage is Not Always the Best

A failed marriage does not mean you're a failure in life and everything. Humans experience failures at the time. Some experience it with jobs, in school, finance, and some in relationships. Instead of mulling over the negatives, think of divorce as a sort of a fresh start.

While marriages that end in divorce is always a sign that your romantic relationship with your partner is over, it doesn't mean it has to end forever. This is especially useful when children are involved. Assuming that you’re both are co-parenting - it can be hard if the two of you are not actively participating.

3. Yours are Neither the First Nor the Last Divorce Case

When you talk with a group of people your age, it is highly likely that a handful of them are divorced or are going through it. You'd be surprised by how many people lead exciting lives after their divorce. This confirms that divorce is not a failure and that everyone going through it should embrace their fresh new start in order to attract new things in their lives.

Do you have any opinions about why divorcees shouldn’t be ashamed of their failed marriages? Let’s talk about it in this thread. I really want to know what you have to say.
Re: Why You Shouldn’t Be Ashamed of Your Divorce
Andyk - 28 September, 2017 09:08AM
I'm certainly not ashamed by my divorce. it was my wife's decision to leave and instigate divorce proceedings because she was the one who decided that she didn't want to be with me and out children anymore and had the affair. it is my children that I feel sorry for, they are now the product of a broken home.

Divorce is not stigmatised like it was years ago when my mother would refer to Divorce under her breath, the same way that she would refer to Cancer and Lesbians given that all are fairly mainstream now.

As for leading an exciting life after divorce, hell yes. I have made new sets of friends, been on holidays I never would have been able to had I still been married, bought a convertible that would have been unheard of during my marriage as it would mess up her hair and the main thing, my money is my own to do what I want with.

My children have now left home and I am starting another new chapter in my life. I should thank my ex wife for liberating me from what my life would have been had we stayed together, but I wont because we don't talk (her choice). Life post divorce is wonderful.
Re: Why You Shouldn’t Be Ashamed of Your Divorce
HatMan - 28 September, 2017 10:39AM
It freed me from a lifetime of wondering what mental new alternative therapy or other nuttery would take her fancy that week. It also saved me from ludicrous conversations about chakras, spirit guides, energy giving crystals etc etc ....it cost me a house but that was a small price to pay to be free !!

I do occasionally miss the batshit crazy nonsense regarding conspiracy theories, illuminati and world government etc....in the same way that I would miss smashing my head against a wall - which I was often tempted to do!
Re: Why You Shouldn’t Be Ashamed of Your Divorce
davidterry - 28 September, 2017 10:51AM
>>It also saved me from ludicrous conversations about chakras, spirit guides, energy giving crystals etc etc

Ah, this is beginning to explain where the constituency of these damned spell casters comes from .....
Re: Why You Shouldn’t Be Ashamed of Your Divorce
Powerbank - 04 October, 2017 10:25AM
Thank you, I am keeping an eye on this thread. It has been very difficult to cope with the breakdown as children are involved.
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