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when the mother is ill (7 Posts)
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14 March, 2017 08:12PM
when the mother is ill
brummie12 - 14 March, 2017 08:12PM
Hi again...

A quick question...

In case if the mother is diagnosed with cancer, what are the father's chances of obtaining custody of the children?
Re: when the mother is ill
Andyk - 14 March, 2017 09:12PM
It's a bit like asking how long is a piece of string. How old are the said children? If they are toddlers and the cancer is debilitating and she can't manage to look after them then you might, however I feel they are teenagers and it is treatable then probably not.
Re: when the mother is ill
Bubblegum - 14 March, 2017 09:28PM
What exactly do you mean by "in case if the mother is diagnosed with cancer" ?
Is she undergoing tests? what type of cancer? what stage? treatable/prognosis? How many kids/ages?

There are so many possible scenarios that this question is impossible to answer.

What I will say is that if I had cancer and needed aggressive treatment, I'd like to think that my ex would put our personal differences aside and support the family in any way needed for the sake of the children. The last thing my kids would want in such a situation is to be distanced from me - if anything they would want to be close.
Re: when the mother is ill
brummie12 - 15 March, 2017 03:17PM
Apologies for not providing more details, the kids are 1 and 3. I don't know any details about her cancer/treatment or disability as I just heard informally about it from her GP (who is a family friend) and I think I may need to go thru the formal channels to obtain paperwork to prove it. She would not let me see the children now so I cannot even answer you whether she looks after them well!
She also will need to leave the UK once I cancel her visa, and I don't want the children to be taken to a third world country by their sick mother. Do I stand a chance of getting full custody in this case?
I have still some sympathy for her, but in all honesty I have my own life to rebuild now, after our nightmare of a marriage -mainly of her making.
Re: when the mother is ill
HatMan - 15 March, 2017 03:39PM
As has been said on your previous thread...you don't get the choice on cancelling her Visa - She will more than likely remain in the UK if she wants to as she has children here now - You cannot just make her go away!

You chance of full custody is slim as she will undoubtedly wish to retain custody herself - and be prepared to pay child maintenance accordingly as well as giving her a large sum in respect of the FMH.
Re: when the mother is ill
davidterry - 16 March, 2017 03:08PM
>>I just heard informally about it from her GP (who is a family friend)

Possibly a formal complaint needs to be lodged against this GP.
Re: when the mother is ill
JosephVaughan - 19 April, 2017 10:58AM
In this case when mother is diagnosed with cancer. There will more chances of obtaining custody of children to father

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