The first thing to remember is that the "ancillary relief"
proceedings in any divorce in the UK can be settled by agreement between
the spouses with minimal assistance from lawyers and many couples do
this perfectly well. Before coming to an agreement, though, it is usually
sensible to find out what one's rights and options are so that any agreement
is based on an informed choice. Where there are any significant assets
involved (or, possibly, other intractable problems such as debt) it
is normally best to take a solicitor's advice before making any major
decision.
Another thing to beware of is the temptation to approach the problem
emotionally rather than rationally. This is a particular problem in
cases of adultery where there is a tendency to want "revenge".
A converse problem which can happen in cases of adultery is that the
'guilty' party wishes to compensate the other spouse by being generous
in any financial settlement. If one does not approach these problems
with a cool head it can cost dear in the long run. This is, of course,
easier to say than to do but it is something worth bearing in mind.
If you do not then there is a serious risk that only the lawyers will
benefit and the marital assets available for distribution between the
parties will be eroded by needless legal costs. Impartial advice from
a solicitor who looks at the circumstances dispassionately can be very
useful for this reason alone.
Nevertheless, one should not make the mistake of thinking that all
legal costs are a waste of money: sometimes they are money very well
spent and repay the investment but one has to approach the problem rationally.
For instance, take the following example:-
A husband and wife with no children, both of whom are working and earning
similar salaries, have been married for twenty years and have (a) a
jointly owned house worth, say, £100,000 free of mortgage and (b)
the husband has £100,000 in savings in his own name. The husband
has committed adultery and the wife seeks the house for herself and
half the savings. She will not compromise on this because she wants
"revenge" for the adultery.
Under circumstances such as these the husband should certainly resist
and take the matter to court. Indeed, if his wife is adamant on receiving
half the savings he would probably be well advised to offer to transfer
the house into his wife's sole name and offer to pay her, say,
£10,000 from the savings. He may then sit back and watch the matter
go to court if his wife is still insisting on her demands. He will obviously
have to pay his lawyer to do this and that may cost him, say, £5,000.
(It will also, presumably, cost his wife a similar amount although the
figure is quite hypothetical and just for the sake of example).
When the case gets to court a judge will say (probably), "Well,
this is a long marriage. The total assets are £200,000. The wife
wants to remain in the house and so I will order that it be transferred
into her sole name. The husband can keep the savings and so that gives
£100,000 to each of them". If that happens (and that is a
quite likely outcome in these particular circumstances) there will then
be an argument over who is to pay the costs of the proceedings and it
is important to understand that the "loser" usually has to
pay the "winner's" legal costs (as well as their own).
In this case the husband offered to transfer the house into his wife's
sole name and pay her £10,000. In fact, the judge awarded
her less than that in that she only got the house. This means that she
"lost". That being the case she will almost certainly be ordered
to pay her husband's legal costs (of £5,000 in this example) as
well as having to pay her own legal costs of a similar amount. This
means that the husband will receive £100,000 net at the end of
the day whereas the wife will receive £90,000 after the legal costs
have been deducted.
If the husband had not fought this case he would have had to pay a
great deal more to his wife but as things have actually turned out he
has had to pay very much less and recouped his legal costs.
Paying out for legal advice was a sensible thing to do in this instance
- as was taking the case the whole distance to a final hearing before
a judge. You should also be able to see why it was sensible to offer
the additional £10,000 - so as to build in a margin of error.
This is a straightforward example which will have involved the use
of a so-called "Calderbank letter"
and this type of situation recurs all the time in divorce law. It is
important to understand that no two cases are alike and that the considerations
might have been entirely different, for example, if one of the parties
was in receipt of Legal Aid. Knowing what
the courts are likely to award (and this case might well have been different
if there had been children or if the value of the property were different
or if the wife did not work etc etc) in a given case and choosing the
most beneficial approach in the light of the stance adopted by the other
side is a matter of skill and judgement. It can save (or lose) a client
considerable sums of money depending entirely on how it is handled.
If you wish to know more about how the process works in practice please
continue.
Please contact David
Terry at David_Terry@dterry.demon.co.uk if you need specific advice.
Ancillary relief is often the most contentious part of any divorce proceeding.
If there is any dispute in a divorce it is in this area that it is likely
to be found and if there are any significant assets involved the advice
of a solicitor is usually advisable.